If you had to choose, would you rather FEEL loved or BE loved?
Let me explain.
Option 1. FEEL loved.
Somebody only pretends to love you. End result: you feel loved (but you really aren’t).
Option 2. BE loved.
Somebody loves you but never tells you. End result: you are loved (but you don’t feel it).
Rob and I talked about this last night. I raised the question, and said I would choose option 2. Before he even answered, I knew he would choose option 1. I was right.
I thought it was so interesting that we would choose the opposite to each other. On the other hand, it wasn’t really a surprise. We are opposites in many ways.
I think the reason I would choose option 2 stems from my need to be liked by people (I have posted about this before). And the reason I wouldn’t choose option 1 is probably because I worry about what people think of me. As much as it hurts, I would rather know the truth. So even though I want people to like me, I would rather know if they didn’t!
Like I said to Rob, it can be really hard living in my head sometimes. ;-)
Of course, everybody wants to be loved AND feel loved. But if you couldn’t have both, which would you choose?