Because Tyler is our second child, we never had that one-on-one time with him that we had with Ethan for the first 2 years and 4 months of his life.
And now, we have to make an effort to carve out individual time with each child. We do a pretty good job of that, but very rarely are both Rob and I able to spend quality time with just ONE child. Usually one of us takes one of the boys out, which is great, but today was different.
Ethan has gone to a friend’s 8th birthday party/sleepover. So from 2pm this afternoon until 10am tomorrow morning, it’s just Rob, Tyler and I. Just the 3 of us.
We decided to spend the whole afternoon hanging out together, doing fun stuff as a trio. Here’s what we got up to:
1. We had pancakes, ice cream and milkshakes from the Waffle Station. YUMMO.
2. Tyler visited Santa at the mall. They were taking photos, but we didn’t want a photo. Tyler just wanted to say “hello”, so he went and sat on Santa’s knee and had a really long chat (there was no queue).
3. We went to the library and got new books out for Tyler.
4. We went to the supermarket and shopped for ingredients to make a “special” dinner. Tyler chose what he wanted to eat: American hotdogs, with salad. Followed by banana splits for dessert (with strawberries as well).
5. We visited a fabulous playground we don’t go to very often (it’s at one of the neighbouring beaches). Tyler loves it because there is a HUGE rope climbing frame. In between playing, we sat on the park bench and ate chips & dip.
6. We went for a drive to show Tyler one of the houses Daddy used to live in before we got married.
7. Rob and Tyler played a little Playstation.
8. Tyler wanted to eat dinner on the living room floor, so he helped lay a cloth on the floor and set the “table” with cutlery and napkins. We drank out of plastic wine glasses and Tyler did the whole “cheers!” thing.
Now Tyler is asleep and Rob has gone out to the driving range with my Dad. I’m going to curl up on the couch with my polar fleece blanket, next to the beautifully-lit Christmas tree, and read my book.
It was lovely spending time with Tyler on his own. I knew Ethan would be having a ball at the party, so I wanted to make sure Tyler had a really memorable day as well. I know he had a great day (because he told me), but more importantly, I hope he will remember that we wanted to make him feel special. We told him how great it was to hang out with him on his own, and I could see the pride and happiness in his eyes. That’s the stuff memories are made of.
* Photography by Tony Gatman