Okay, I’ll say it. My kids drive me a bit nuts when it comes to clothes!!
Truth be told, Ethan (almost 5) is not too bad. He dresses himself every morning and he is generally happy to wear any of the clothes in his dresser.
He has moments (like this morning) where he has a meltdown because something he really wants to wear is dirty. Or, in the case of his favourite Spiderman shorts, holey. [I'm going to ask Mum to fix the shorts tomorrow, since I don't have a sewing machine and wouldn't be able to use it if I did!]
On the other hand, Tyler (2 1/2) is a nightmare to clothe. He is an extremely, er, um … strong-willed child. That’s putting it lightly. He also has an extremely poor sense of fashion.
Tyler fights with us constantly about clothes. He goes through phases of liking a particular item, and then hating it. He wants to wear sweatshirts and gumboots in summer. He wants to wear tank tops and bare feet in winter. He likes to “layer” his outfits. But the problem is, he usually wants the baggier stuff on first, with the one-size-too-small stuff on top. Nice.
I usually don’t have the energy to fight with him about this sort of thing. It often gets him wound up and emotional, and that’s not a fun way to start the day. I can tell immediately what kind of mood he is in and whether or not I can persuade him to wear something else. So I usually let him wear whatever he wants … within reason.
He’s worn a Spiderman suit (complete with mask) to the shops.
He’s worn gumboots to the beach. In summer.
He often wears clashing colours, patterns together with stripes, and clothes that are way too small. [I try to hide them, but he manages to find them again!]
Today, while Ethan was at Kindy, he decided to play with the stuff in the dress-up box. He chose a tool belt, a spiderman mask worn as a hat, a pirate “scarf”, a Bob the Builder painting smock, a zebra face mask and a Shrek costume.
He needed help putting some of it on. As I assisted him, I looked at him and thought “you look ridiculous!” and then I realised … this is HIM. This is part of his personality. He’s outgoing, friendly, willing to try new things, messy, cheeky, defiant, funny and creative.
I’m not going to try and change him. I’ll just hope & pray that he finds some dress sense along the way!