If you had to choose, would you rather FEEL loved or BE loved?
Let me explain.
Option 1. FEEL loved.
Somebody only pretends to love you. End result: you feel loved (but you really aren’t).
Option 2. BE loved.
Somebody loves you but never tells you. End result: you are loved (but you don’t feel it).
Rob and I talked about this last night. I raised the question, and said I would choose option 2. Before he even answered, I knew he would choose option 1. I was right.
I thought it was so interesting that we would choose the opposite to each other. On the other hand, it wasn’t really a surprise. We are opposites in many ways.
I think the reason I would choose option 2 stems from my need to be liked by people (I have posted about this before). And the reason I wouldn’t choose option 1 is probably because I worry about what people think of me. As much as it hurts, I would rather know the truth. So even though I want people to like me, I would rather know if they didn’t!
Like I said to Rob, it can be really hard living in my head sometimes.
Of course, everybody wants to be loved AND feel loved. But if you couldn’t have both, which would you choose?